20 January 2011

The Art Of Living

Each Thursday I share a little something from my world. This week there is a small gift attached if you would like it.

For many years I have had a lovely set of inspiration cards beside my bed.
Each morning I shuffle them and a new message for reflection would be presented to me accompanied by a piece of delightful artwork. The cards are based on the writing of Don Miguel Ruiz author of 'The Four Agreements'. Recently I purchased the book to gain a deeper understanding into his ideas.

The four agreements that he writes of, really resonate with me as a simple 'guide' to my thoughts and actions in everyday life.  To help me to keep them uppermost in my mind, I have created the following  cards which are currently displayed on the inspiration board which sits on my desk.

If you are interested in printing them off and using them yourself, I am very happy for you to do so.
If you reblog them it would be nice to think that you would link back to this post.

For those of you who are interested, here is a simple elaboration of each agreement directly from the book:

Be Impeccable With Your Word
Speak with integrity.
Say only what you mean.
Avoid using the words to speak against yourself or to gossip about others.
Use the power of your words in the direction of truth and love.

Don't Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you.
What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream.
When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.

Don't Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and express what you really want.
Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama.
With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment.
Your best will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick.
Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

So how do I relate the agreements to my life?

Be Impeccable With Your Word - I think that I'm pretty good at this one but am still harnessing the strength to tell people what I really think and feel when I'm not sure of the outcome.

Don't Take Anything Personally - as a super-sensitive person, I've found this the hardest to learn and live.  I really admire those people who seem to have been born covered with a thick coating of Teflon.
This is definitely one of my life challenges!

Don't Make Assumptions - has been simplified by me into 'Never Assume'. 
This has been a very useful little mantra over recent years.  Interestingly, when I've ignored it there have been negative consequences.

Always Do Your Best - this is a tricky one for a self-acknowledged perfectionist as I tend to overdo things. I guess the challenge is to be happy with 'my best' and not go beyond that!

I wonder, do any of these ring true for you?


  1. This is really wonderful! I always love to hear what inspires people to live better and more gracious lives, since I am currently in the process to find something that motivates me to live this way as well. Thank you for sharing, and I might just have to print these out {or at least write them down}.


  2. What a beautifully simple and yet amazingly comprehensive list - I can see I have so much room to improve on all of these. Epecially the 'don't take anything pesonally' - I take *everything* personally. And not because I think the world revolves around me (far from it!!), it's just my way. But it's definitely something I need to work on :-)

  3. That is so beautiful and I love those cards:) Have a fantastic day, my dear

    Ps: I am hosting a natural cosmetics GIVEAWAY today! Hope you’ll join in :)

  4. Always a joy to read and so inspirational...I like them all.I view the 'don't take it personally' one as 'it's not about me' sort of mantra which I think is the same. Are there more cards in the set. It is funny because I give cards like this (not as nice or wise) but don't have any...

  5. I'm with you, being happy with my best is the challenge in that one for me. Don't assume is the one I'm still working on. Good reminders.

  6. These are all fabulous. I'm a big believer in 'perception is reality' as people think what they see is what they get, not always true!!
    Do love the word 'assume' & the saying "assume makes an ass of u & me" ass-u-me, how often has that happened?? Love Posie

  7. Great words of wisdom. I always try not to assume and have learnt not to take things personally, especially in business. It's always easy but I try. xx

  8. I love this post. and yes, all the agreements ring true. especially 'Don't take anything personal'. I've gotten a lot better with this, and I know that whatever people do, it's usually about them and not about me. but it's still hard to take at times, since I'm a very sensitive person, too.
    thanks for introducing me to Don Miguel Ruiz. will have to check out his writing.

  9. Beautiful post Felicity. If I could master these five truths...what a gift that would be.
    Your blog is lovely, and so glad that you left a message, so I could find you.

  10. Thank-you Felicity. These resonated with some of the content in Hugh McKays book 'what makes us tick' which I have been reading over the holidays.
    I am going to print these off and stick them near my desk.

  11. Ah, Felicity, yet another thoughtful post. I relate to them all and am also perpetually challenged by #4. J x

  12. Oh I love it. I will be thinking about this all day...truly I will. Thank you.

  13. Wow!! What a fantastic post. This is something I really needed to read today. Thanks so much for sharing these words with us, they are printing off as I write this and will be sitting on my bedside table - what an inspiration. No.2 is my biggest hurdle in life, so the small but succinct elaboration that goes with it is just perfect for me. So glad i found you here in bloggy land. Thank you. Alison xx

  14. these are simply gorgeous and how uplifting and inspiring. what a real treat to have next to your bedside and such a great way to start the day. love the messages contained and will have to have a look into these a little more myself. Naomi xx


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