The road that I'm traveling as a newly-minted, full-time step-mother has been an interesting one to say the least. Before I committed to this role I did what I always do when faced with a new challenge...I hit the books.
Actually that's not quite true. I tried to find literature that gave me some sort of constructive guide to this messy situation but there was very little out there that I found to be of great assistance.
There were a plethora of titles about parenting in general, supporting kids through separation and divorce, single parent guides....but not so much for that tricky beast the step-parent.
Fortunately the children's father, Captain V. is a very hands-on and committed Dad and he has been a patient guide and mentor. Not only are we nurturing our own relationship, but he is helping me step-by-awkward-step to parent his children with him.
I am very much at the novice level and often feel like I have two-left feet firmly lodged between my molars but the kids are fantastic and we are slowly finding our 'groove'.
When things go awry I have to remind myself that this is just the start of our dance together and that I am very fortunate to have two extra-large feet to stand on [his not mine!] when the 'steps' get too tricky.
In closing this post today, I would like to extend a special thank you to Naomi at Seven Cherubs for her support and friendship. She has written a brilliant post on what it means to be a mother which I would encourage you to read. For me it was such an empowering article and reading it gave me the impetus to write and share this post with you today. If you know someone who could do with a boost to their parenting 'self', I suggest you print it off and share it as it holds lots of wonderful wisdom.
Thank you Naomi for this gift.
Until next we meet, enjoy the Now! and if you're visiting from Allison's 'Weekend Rewind' thank you for giving this particularly heartfelt post another 'play'.